About Me As A Counsellor

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Hello, I am Nicola, a qualified relationship counsellor here to support you through life’s relational challenges. I offer both individual, and relationship counselling. I work with both young people and adults.

Relationships shape every part of our lives, and when communication breaks down, it can lead to confusion, conflict, and emotional distress. Whether you're navigating a romantic relationship, a family dynamic, or your relationship with yourself, counselling offers a safe and supportive space to explore your thoughts and feelings without judgment.

Our relationships are a vital part of how we see ourselves. Very few people will go through life without experiencing a difficult relationship at some point. We have so many relationships from childhood to adulthood. We all learn different relational scripts, so understanding yours may help you to develop a deeper understanding of yourself. We carry unique relational patterns shaped by our past. These start from childhood to the present. Understanding these patterns can help you improve current relationships and respond differently moving forward.

In both individual and relationship counselling, a safe space is created to enable you to hear and understand yourself and your behaviours more clearly. In this safe environment you can start to feel more connected to yourself and make choices that align with your values. From this place of understanding, real change becomes possible. When exploring relationships, whether with a partner, parent, child, or sibling, we explore shared goals, misunderstandings, and ways to communicate more effectively. 

We are never completely the same person in each of our relationships, so reflection and understanding of ourselves is important. When a relationship breaks down, we are often left questioning ourselves, feeling confused and sometimes overwhelmed. In counselling the communication breakdown can be explored. On many occasions relationships can be rebuilt, especially when new ways to communicate needs, desires and goals are found. Sadly, not all relationships can or should be repaired, but with support, you can find healing. 

I draw from a range of therapeutic approaches, primarily psychodynamic and systemic theories. I will use my understanding and knowledge of different theories to help you navigate your way through difficult times. 

Reaching out for counselling can be an important first step toward positive change. Counselling offers a safe and confidential environment where you can be vulnerable and share your story. The therapeutic relationship is vital in helping you feel safe. I’m here to walk alongside you, offering insight, compassion, and support and to provide a space for you to find your voice, as well as your ability to listen to yourself. Sometimes exploring the possibility, of a new story can be the road to change and a different journey. 

The commitment to create positive changes is down to you. Learning that the choices we make, will shape our lives. I rarely meet a person that doesn’t feel that counselling has helped them in some way. I hope that I can support you, in building a stronger relationship with both yourself, and others.

• Advanced Diploma in Counselling (Psychodynamic). Anglia Ruskin University 
• Certificate in Couple and Family Counselling. The Institute of Family Therapy. London 
• Mentalization Training (Mentalization Based Therapy for parents under pressure). Tavistock Relationships
• Certificate of Proficiency as a Relationship Counsellor (Relate London)
• Counselling Skills Certification - Bereavement Counselling.                                        
• NCFE CACHE Certificate In understanding Children and Young People’s Mental Health
• Certificate in Online and Telephone Counselling (The Counselling Tutor)

As well as the above qualifications, I attend regular on-going continued professional development. This training is to ensure that my skills are continually maintained and refreshed.

British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)

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